I was always told that if you are truly giving something from the heart that you give it and forget about it.
So unfortunately, it is that statement that I am armed with when I give, whether it be my time or financial support, it is also what standard I hold you up to when you give as well.
I am loving all of the Prince stories on one hand, because it shows that he too understood that if you giving from the heart or because it is the right thing to do, why you gots to tell the entire world? On the other hand, I just wish folks would have kept the gifts as they were, private.
We already live in a society where folks need to ask themselves why are they giving, is it cuz they were moved to, or is it for likes and shares on social media?
It's no secret that I have been down on hard times for a minute. Cancer and not being able to work will do that.
However, it was only known within my closest circle that I did not have some things that many folks may consider to be essential, like a bed. Recently, as in two days ago, I was blessed with a free bed because one of my sister friends is relocating and wasn't taking any of her stuff. Imagine my surprise when I received a text from someone I barely know asking me if I had set the bed up and used it yet.
I was taken aback to say the least; but, knowing my friend, I just had to hope it was shared with this individual that I was getting the bed and everything else that A Wider Circle didn't take because she was over there helping her pack and inquired about what was going to happen to the rest of the stuff.
But giving and the need to tell folks what you had did was something that I had been pondering for a long time even before this happened, as I saw folks on my timeline on Fakebook boast about what they had did for this friend in need, the homeless, their family member etc.
It reminded me why I very rarely will seek help from someone outside of the F10. I can't get down with folks asking you if need help, and then breaking their necks to tell folks that they helped. Whether it be to feed my child, watch my child, pick me up from the hospital or what have you. If I can't get it on my own, I don't need it.